{"id":324,"date":"2012-04-19T21:38:54","date_gmt":"2012-04-19T21:38:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/?p=324"},"modified":"2016-02-28T20:05:47","modified_gmt":"2016-02-28T20:05:47","slug":"how-do-we-help","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/?p=324","title":{"rendered":"How do we help?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>\n<div>\n<div><a href=\"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/pema.jpeg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-325\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-325 alignleft\" src=\"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/pema.jpeg\" alt=\"Pema\" width=\"180\" height=\"182\" \/><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/pema1.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-326\" title=\"Pema\" src=\"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/pema1.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"180\" height=\"182\" \/><\/a><\/div>\n<div>by\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Pema.Chodron\">Pema Chodron<\/a>\u00a0on Monday, January 30, 2012 at 8:12am \u00b7<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p>How do we create a saner world or a saner domestic situation or job situation, wherever we may be? How do we work with our actions and our speech and our minds in a way that opens up the space rather than closes it down? In other words, how do we create space for other people and ourselves to connect with our own wisdom?&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>It all starts with loving-kindness toward oneself, which in turn becomes loving-kindness for others. As the barriers come down around our own hearts, we are less afraid of other people. We are more able to hear what is being said, see what is in front of our eyes, and work in accord with what happens rather than struggle against it. The lojong teachings say that the way to help, the way to act compassionatley, is to exchange oneself for other. When you can put yourself in someone else&#8217;s shoes, then you know what is needed, and what would speak to the heart.<\/p>\n<p>(From Start Where You Are, chapter 17- Compassionate Action)<\/p>\n<div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"themify_builder_content-324\" data-postid=\"324\" class=\"themify_builder_content themify_builder_content-324 themify_builder themify_builder_front\">\n\t\n\t\n<\/div>\n<!-- \/themify_builder_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by\u00a0Pema Chodron\u00a0on Monday, January 30, 2012 at 8:12am \u00b7 How do we create a saner world or a saner domestic situation or job situation, wherever we may be? How do we work with our actions and our speech and our minds in a way that opens up the space rather than closes it down? In(&#8230;)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[35,52,54,55,92,135],"class_list":["post-324","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-buddhism","tag-communication","tag-compassion","tag-compassionate-action","tag-helping","tag-pema-chodron"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/324","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=324"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/324\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":725,"href":"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/324\/revisions\/725"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=324"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=324"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/cronanmassage.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=324"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}